help!

Lenin · Joined: 23 Jan 2007 Posts: 87

I'm in in need of help here.

I'm your average person, I go to college, I have a part-time job, I have nice girlfriend, I have friends and no social impairments. Of course there's the darker side of me that likes hentai in some occasions and my need for the weekly naruto/bleach are there too.

But this thread is not about me, it's about my little brother, we'll call him Marc. For about a year now, me and Marc, who's 14, are watching bleach and naruto together, every Wednesday and Friday I'd get the torrent files from DB and my laptop up with our 50" HD-TV and watch them on it.

But a few days ago when browsing the internet, my user suddenly logged out and said "blah blah contact shit support", I tired to log onto my little brothers user (on windows vista) and I knew his pass, I just guessed it. But when I fired up firefox and began to type my schools homepage into the address field, alot of sites like "www.hentai.com/sblah/h/naruto+hentai.html" came up, now that's just an example.

WTF? was my first thought, because after all, finding out your little brother are getting into hentai is kinda awkward. Anyway by the looks of it, he had visited A LOT of hentai sites.

the thing is that I don't want to see all this stuff before he knows more about love and sex, he might get the wrong idea of what sex is about and fuck up at his first time. Now I figured I'd do him a favour and keep it from our parents, but I seriously wan to confront him with this, but I'm way too afraid that he'll become shy of me for the rest of our days if I do so...

I'm clueless, should I go say it? Or should I just let him continue it,

healingbinge · Joined: 15 Jul 2008 Posts: 1

I would let him continue, personally. What's there to fuck up? Is he gonna try to rape Asian women with exaggerated features using his tentacles?

coolcreep · Joined: 18 Feb 2006 Posts: 560

Whats the big deal? Are you honestly surprised that a 14 year old boy is looking at porn? REALLY? If I found out that a 14 year old boy WASN'T looking at porn, I would get worried. Honestly, if I had a kid brother I would give him links to good sites, teach him tricks for not getting caught, etc. There is absolutely nothing wrong with learning about your body in a hands-on fashion.

Thanatoz · Joined: 28 Jan 2006 Posts: 11

if you are afraid he will fuck up and you dont want to screw your relationship with him by talking about it, you could pass him videos of "normal sex" (no demeaning to women,no huge pornstar ramming it in like if it was a hole in the wall) and you could be still be the cool brother that lends him porn but show him, how relationships work in real life

coolcreep · Joined: 18 Feb 2006 Posts: 560

BigJoo · Joined: 31 Aug 2007 Posts: 34

Coming from a big brother you should talk to him about it. Because if there's anyone in the world your little bro is going to listen to, it is going to be you. Plus thats one of the joys of being the role model for things like this. You dont have to be all daddy about it. You can just give him some pointers like whats realistic and what is not. I had the sex talk with my bro before my dad did. And maybe tell him to start deleting his history as well. Smile

Its nothing to be ashamed of it will be rewarding. Just don't be embarrassed yourself.

Thanatoz · Joined: 28 Jan 2006 Posts: 11

about the wall thing, who knows? people get turn on by anything these days, and by demenaning i dint meant porn in general, but there are things that are

Farseer · Joined: 03 Oct 2004 Posts: 41

If you feel too awkward to broach this topic directly, you can always try a less direct route:

Start by talking to him about safe use of the internet next time you and he are dl'ing stuff. Make sure that he is running Firefox with the Adblock Plus plug-in and has some sort of antivirus installed.

While you are talking to this, make some off-hand comment about how porn sites are notoriously bad for malicious software; then something like "not that you should be looking at sites like that until you are older, understand more about love, etc. etc."

P.S. No-one else seems to have addressed this but I think it was wrong of you to hack into your brother's Vista account without permission.

hawt · Joined: 05 Dec 2008 Posts: 28

coolcreep · Joined: 18 Feb 2006 Posts: 560

Cannabeizen · Joined: 06 Jan 2009 Posts: 44

I'll comment in a random fashion.

Guessing someone's password is not hacking. Hacking implies using great intelligence to fool the system or work around the system. Guessing a password is part luck part meta-thinking.

On the subject of your brother fucking up his first time, he will. I can't speak for everyone else, but I know I sure did. I also would wage atleast half of you (if not all) fucked up your first time. That is why you should never marry your first fuck.

Yes, you can share your experiences and give him pointers, but his body is different than yours. The girls he will fuck will be different than the ones you did. He will have to work on his own methods and techniques.

As far as his porn fucking up his view on normal sex lives and such, who is to say what is normal. Some things are frowned upon: sex with animals, playing with shit, etc. Some things are illegal: Sex with kids. Some things are disgusting: incest.

He's not watching hentai to learn how to love, though. You need to understand that. All he is thinking is how fast he can make the cum come out. Think about it. That's what was going through your mind at that time, along with feelings of disgust and paranoia about getting caught.

So the most important thing you can do is address the last two emotions. Let him know he shouldn't be disgusted, not by telling him it's okay and natural, but by letting him know it's something you do too. He'll make his own inferences and that will be more effective than you telling him something. And teach him how to not get caught.

This is obviously really hard for you, but it's probably twice as hard for him too. (Pun not intended.)

Good luck!

Craze · Joined: 30 Jan 2005 Posts: 5675 Location: Indiana, U

Trotsky1 · Joined: 12 Apr 2005 Posts: 1671

It could be worse he could be looking at gay porn.

Craze · Joined: 30 Jan 2005 Posts: 5675 Location: Indiana, U

hawt · Joined: 05 Dec 2008 Posts: 28